18. Self-worth

Principle

When a person tries to make themselves seem more important because they feel inferior in some way, the opposite happens. The harder they try to emphasise their worth, the less significant they actually become and vice versa. When a person is not worried about their worth, their sense of worth is unconditional. Our sense of self-worth is a very cunning type of excess potential. Balancing forces will do anything they can to wobble you off your pedestal. When you let go of your own worth, you start to acquire it. At the same time, be careful never to bruise someone else’s sense of worth. Make it a personal taboo. If you do, you will save yourself a lot of problems that would seem to come out of nowhere.

Interpretation

The need to strengthen your position and emphasise your finer qualities is an illusion. It’s the same as chasing after the reflection in the vicious mirror circle. So how do you convince yourself that you are worthy and have no need to prove it? There is one feedback chain by which the effect removes the cause. You have to redirect your intention consciously. Rather than trying to put yourself forward in the most favourable light, stop making any attempt at all to increase your worth. When a person isn’t trying to make themselves appear more important (although almost everyone does it), people intuitively sense that their value goes without saying and that person is, as if by magic, treated with greater favour and respect. As a result, the heart and mind are gradually instilled with the conviction that, «I really am worth something.» At a certain point, the mirror circle stops and then turns in the opposite di-rection moving towards you. As a result, your self-esteem improves and it is as if you never had an inferiority complex at all.